If you’re like so many people feeling time-poor nowadays, you’re probably looking at the year ahead wishing and hoping to find a way of freeing things up a bit. It’s easy to be optimistic in January when things are a bit ‘go slow’.
But what can you do to protect yourself from the same old overwhelm when that express train takes off again in a few weeks, and when your days start to become jam-packed again? What I want you to know is that forcibly trying to cut things out is not the answer.
Have you ever tried to cut back on things, trying to carve out more time for yourself, only to find that it causes more stress than its worth?
When you try to change things but it doesn’t work, and more stress is the outcome, it most likely means you’re coming at the problem at the wrong level.
The solution is to make a paradigm shift in the way you come at things.
I talk more about this in my free video training, but for now, the key is to approach time in terms of space, instead of the same old linear way that we are used to.
As we know from Einstein, time and space are linked, which can be a difficult one to get the head wrapped around, but we don’t need to. All you need to know to move to a new level with the time issue is:
To create more time in your life you need to create space first.
If this is a new concept to you, then what I suggest is that you just test it out for yourself. Here’s how:
3 Essential keys for creating space in your life
To start creating space in your life there are three places you need to start. The good thing is that you can do this on the go, without needing to find more time to do them!
- Create space between you and your thoughts
A few times each day, try to imagine that you’re in a movie theatre, watching your life play out on the screen. Imagine that you’re sitting back in the projector room. Look at what is happening and most importantly look at the thoughts that are playing out on the screen, around those circumstances. Try to sense some space between you, the watcher, and the ‘movie’ that is playing. Trust that it really is separate from the real you, even if it doesn’t feel like it!
- Create space between your feelings and your actions
The next time you have a negative feeling, especially if it is a strong one, stop for a moment, or for as long you can. Just try to sit with the feeling without thinking, speaking or acting on it. If this is very hard, promise yourself that you’ll let yourself act on it a little later. For now, just create the space by noticing the feeling in your body as a physical sensation.
- Create space between events and your reaction to them
The way to do this is to stop the automatic tendency of blaming and judging. A little like the movie screen tactic above, just try to see the event, whether you feel it as good, bad or otherwise, without labelling it.
The trick is to banish the words “should” and “shouldn’t” from your vocabulary.
This doesn’t mean that you become undiscerning or a passive pushover. Once you have created the space you will be in a much better position to respond to an event with more ease and grace, which in turn will attract more of the same.
One of my favourite quotes to remember when you believe that something should or shouldn’t have happened the way it did, is this one by Byron Katie:
How do you know that it was supposed to happen? Because it did.
Try these keys for creating space out and see what happens. If you are new to this, it may seem all a little abstract and you might be wondering “how does this relate to my overscheduled life?” That’s normal, because our minds like to complicate things, and simple but powerful solutions often get dismissed. So, for now I invite you to just adopt a willingness to trust, and begin building your own evidence.
If you’d like to find out more about making the paradigm shift to living with ease, download my free video training “How to get relief from feeling stressed, pressured and time-poor”.
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