7 Myths about Living with Ease

7 Myths about Living with Ease

Even in the most idyllic life, suffering happens. It is an inevitable part of being human. But day to day living doesn’t have to be laced with stress and torment , even though it might seem that way nowadays.

To stop the epidemic of overwhelm in this chaotic world, I believe that a paradigm shift in the way we see life is required.  It’s a simple step, and once that shift is made, you can quickly come to see that much of the suffering that we habitually experience is unnecessary.

With the new perspective in place, and the deliberate intention to live with ease, things improve surprisingly quickly.

Interestingly, some people still don’t believe that living with ease is a real option for them, or else they resist it as not being ‘OK’. I believe that this is because of a string of misconceptions, which include the following.

 

7 Myths about Living with Ease

Many people think that intentionally living with ease means:

  1. Expecting nothing ‘bad’ or unwanted to happen
  2. Not doing much / never working hard / being unproductive
  3. Being hedonistic
  4. Not benefitting others / not pulling your weight
  5. Always expecting to feel good
  6. Not facing reality / not being responsible
  7. Being selfish

None of these are correct. On the contrary, when we learn to intentionally live with ease we free up our bandwidth.

With greater a bandwidth we have infinitely more space in our lives and any feeling of overwhelm disappears.

We not only feel better in ourselves, we have far more to offer to our families, people around us and the rest of the world. As parents, we can emulate the way in which we wish our children to live also.

 

Through intentionally living with ease:

  • You are powerfully positioned to create circumstances of your choosing, without effort.
  • You are no longer creating more challenge in your life than is already presented to you.
  • You cut most potential challenges off at the pass, without force or struggle.
  • When challenges do occur, you know how to dissolve most of them quickly and easily.
  • When life situations occur that you really can’t change, you know how to deal with them with true calm, acceptance and equipoise.

This all leads to your life loosening up and flowing smoothly, as a matter of course, giving you the space to move, to think and to just be. You are no longer hamstrung by fear, doubt and “shoulds”, or caught up in the struggle to make things happen, so you become more productive, which in turn creates more space. From there the feeling of inspiration can re-enter and you have confidence to move forward in the way you really want to.

 

Could you be living with more ease?

You can do a quick self-check by asking yourself these questions. Am I:

  1. Resigned to life being hectic, stressed or less than happy?
  2. Struggling to create space in my mind or life, by giving up things or pushing things away?
  3. Stressfully trying to protect myself from things, people and unwanted circumstances?
  4. Persistently trying to “make lemonade out of the lemons”?
  5. Struggling, pushing and striving to be or have what I want?
  6. Giving up on my dreams?
  7. Lowering my expectations to avoid disappointment?

These are just some of the signs that we are not engaging our full power and thereby making life difficult.

If you’d like to make things easier for yourself you can start the process now by accessing my free video training. In this you’ll learn the essential key to getting free from stress and overwhelm, and quickly make your everyday life much easier.

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Create Time by Creating Space – 3 Essential Keys

Create Time by Creating Space – 3 Essential Keys

If you’re like so many people feeling time-poor nowadays, you’re probably looking at the year ahead wishing and hoping to find a way of freeing things up a bit. It’s easy to be optimistic in January when things are a bit ‘go slow’.

But what can you do to protect yourself from the same old overwhelm when that express train takes off again in a few weeks, and when your days start to become jam-packed again? What I want you to know is that forcibly trying to cut things out is not the answer.

Have you ever tried to cut back on things, trying to carve out more time for yourself, only to find that it causes more stress than its worth?

When you try to change things but it doesn’t work, and more stress is the outcome, it most likely means you’re coming at the problem at the wrong level.

 

The solution is to make a paradigm shift in the way you come at things.

 

I talk more about this in my free video training, but for now, the key is to approach time in terms of space, instead of the same old linear way that we are used to.

As we know from Einstein, time and space are linked, which can be a difficult one to get the head wrapped around, but we don’t need to. All you need to know to move to a new level with the time issue is:

To create more time in your life you need to create space first.

If this is a new concept to you, then what I suggest is that you just test it out for yourself. Here’s how:

 

3 Essential keys for creating space in your life

To start creating space in your life there are three places you need to start. The good thing is that you can do this on the go, without needing to find more time to do them!

  1. Create space between you and your thoughts

A few times each day, try to imagine that you’re in a movie theatre, watching your life play out on the screen. Imagine that you’re sitting back in the projector room. Look at what is happening and most importantly look at the thoughts that are playing out on the screen, around those circumstances. Try to sense some space between you, the watcher, and the ‘movie’ that is playing. Trust that it really is separate from the real you, even if it doesn’t feel like it!

  1. Create space between your feelings and your actions

The next time you have a negative feeling, especially if it is a strong one, stop for a moment, or for as long you can. Just try to sit with the feeling without thinking, speaking or acting on it. If this is very hard, promise yourself that you’ll let yourself act on it a little later. For now, just create the space by noticing the feeling in your body as a physical sensation.

  1. Create space between events and your reaction to them

The way to do this is to stop the automatic tendency of blaming and judging. A little like the movie screen tactic above, just try to see the event, whether you feel it as good, bad or otherwise, without labelling it.

The trick is to banish the words “should” and “shouldn’t” from your vocabulary.

This doesn’t mean that you become undiscerning or a passive pushover. Once you have created the space you will be in a much better position to respond to an event with more ease and grace, which in turn will attract more of the same.

One of my favourite quotes to remember when you believe that something should or shouldn’t have happened the way it did, is this one by Byron Katie:

How do you know that it was supposed to happen? Because it did.

Try these keys for creating space out and see what happens. If you are new to this, it may seem all a little abstract and you might be wondering “how does this relate to my overscheduled life?” That’s normal, because our minds like to complicate things, and simple but powerful solutions often get dismissed. So, for now I invite you to just adopt a willingness to trust, and begin building your own evidence.

If you’d like to find out more about making the paradigm shift to living with ease, download my free video training “How to get relief from feeling stressed, pressured and time-poor”.

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“But I’m Not Overwhelmed, I’m OK”

“But I’m Not Overwhelmed, I’m OK”

Did you know that most people who are living in the overwhelm cycle are not actually overwhelmed?

Why not?

Because most of us are working so damn hard at not letting overwhelm happen that we manage to stay in the ‘OK’ zone. As a result many of us are living with reduced physical and emotional energy, a reduced sense of fulfillment, increased stress and a loss of inner peace.

If you are not sure whether you are living in the Overwhelm cycle ask yourself this; do you find that time for doing what you love, and with the people you love, is squeezed down to a minimum? If so, you are most likely in the cycle, and I am sure you would know that you are not alone. This cycle of overwhelm is epidemic in our current world.

As if living like this is not stressful enough already, the scary thing is that we know that if we encounter one of the “bigger waves in life”, which could come along at any minute, it could tip our balance from being OK to Overwhelmed. 

The good thing is that if used wisely, this overwhelm cycle can actually be used as the fuel for our biggest transformation ever. This is the transformation into living in true balance with meaning and purpose.

If you would like to learn more about the overwhelm cycle – whether you are in it and how to get out of it, get my free starter kit. You can begin the transformation now.