7 Myths about Living with Ease

7 Myths about Living with Ease

Even in the most idyllic life, suffering happens. It is an inevitable part of being human. But day to day living doesn’t have to be laced with stress and torment , even though it might seem that way nowadays.

To stop the epidemic of overwhelm in this chaotic world, I believe that a paradigm shift in the way we see life is required.  It’s a simple step, and once that shift is made, you can quickly come to see that much of the suffering that we habitually experience is unnecessary.

With the new perspective in place, and the deliberate intention to live with ease, things improve surprisingly quickly.

Interestingly, some people still don’t believe that living with ease is a real option for them, or else they resist it as not being ‘OK’. I believe that this is because of a string of misconceptions, which include the following.

 

7 Myths about Living with Ease

Many people think that intentionally living with ease means:

  1. Expecting nothing ‘bad’ or unwanted to happen
  2. Not doing much / never working hard / being unproductive
  3. Being hedonistic
  4. Not benefitting others / not pulling your weight
  5. Always expecting to feel good
  6. Not facing reality / not being responsible
  7. Being selfish

None of these are correct. On the contrary, when we learn to intentionally live with ease we free up our bandwidth.

With greater a bandwidth we have infinitely more space in our lives and any feeling of overwhelm disappears.

We not only feel better in ourselves, we have far more to offer to our families, people around us and the rest of the world. As parents, we can emulate the way in which we wish our children to live also.

 

Through intentionally living with ease:

  • You are powerfully positioned to create circumstances of your choosing, without effort.
  • You are no longer creating more challenge in your life than is already presented to you.
  • You cut most potential challenges off at the pass, without force or struggle.
  • When challenges do occur, you know how to dissolve most of them quickly and easily.
  • When life situations occur that you really can’t change, you know how to deal with them with true calm, acceptance and equipoise.

This all leads to your life loosening up and flowing smoothly, as a matter of course, giving you the space to move, to think and to just be. You are no longer hamstrung by fear, doubt and “shoulds”, or caught up in the struggle to make things happen, so you become more productive, which in turn creates more space. From there the feeling of inspiration can re-enter and you have confidence to move forward in the way you really want to.

 

Could you be living with more ease?

You can do a quick self-check by asking yourself these questions. Am I:

  1. Resigned to life being hectic, stressed or less than happy?
  2. Struggling to create space in my mind or life, by giving up things or pushing things away?
  3. Stressfully trying to protect myself from things, people and unwanted circumstances?
  4. Persistently trying to “make lemonade out of the lemons”?
  5. Struggling, pushing and striving to be or have what I want?
  6. Giving up on my dreams?
  7. Lowering my expectations to avoid disappointment?

These are just some of the signs that we are not engaging our full power and thereby making life difficult.

If you’d like to make things easier for yourself you can start the process now by accessing my free video training. In this you’ll learn the essential key to getting free from stress and overwhelm, and quickly make your everyday life much easier.

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Your Number One Reason for Meditating

Your Number One Reason for Meditating

It is common, scientifically proven knowledge that a regular practice of meditation provides a long list of physical, emotional and practical benefits. From reducing stress, to increasing productivity, to helping prevent heart disease, the list of reasons to meditate is extensive.

Not surprisingly, meditation has been adopted more and more in recent years by individuals, work places and schools, as the benefits become more well known.

What is surprising however, is that the main reason, the ultimate benefit of meditation, is often not known, or is glossed over.

The real reason for meditation goes so much deeper than the list of physical ‘positive side effects’ as I’ve heard them referred to. When we meditate we come to know our own minds.

We learn to connect to who and what we really are.

So instead of paddling along through life using all the will and might you can muster from your five senses alone; most likely exhausting yourself in the process, you can learn to make things easier for yourself. You can tap into a much bigger power source – the real you, which is infinite consciousness.

Here is a video that I recommend, which explains more about the real benefit of meditation. I hope that this inspires you to give yourself the greatest gift of learning to meditate.

 

If you would like to have personal or group meditation instruction brought to you in your home, school or workplace, contact HappinessHQ to find out more. There are many different ways of practicing meditation and some methods will suit you more than others. I can help you to demystify it and come up with a routine that fits with you, your lifestyle and your requirements. I’ll also show you that meditation doesn’t have to be complicated, arduous or time-consuming in order to provide huge positive changes in your life.

So don’t hesitate to get in touch to find out more and to get started as soon as possible.

How to Let Go of Negative Feelings

How to Let Go of Negative Feelings

You’ve probably noticed a relentless push to get rid of negative feelings. Either it is coming from within yourself, because you naturally don’t like experiencing them, or else the drive seems to be coming from the well-meaning advice around us.

We hear again and again that to make our lives better we need to let go of those negative feelings. We hear it in spiritual teachings, health advice, positive psychology, law of attraction coaching and the list goes on. And it’s true.

“You need to learn to let go”

But how?

That is one of the most common questions I get, and is something I struggled with personally for many years. So, I want to make it easy for you by giving you two powerful descriptions of how to deliberately, skilfully and authentically let go.

The very real danger is that when we haven’t been taught such skills, we can end up merely supressing negative feelings. It is easy to think that we’ve dealt with them well, only to have them rearing their heads again and again, or have them manifesting in some other negative way, such as in disease or as a reflection in our outer circumstances.

The following excerpts are from two of my favourite people and spiritual teachers; Eckhart Tolle and David Hawkins. They give similar, yet complimentary advice on how to let go. From personal experience as well as helping others, I can vouch for these techniques as being positively life-changing.

My suggestion is the next time you feel negativity that can’t quickly and easily be shaken off, allow yourself about fifteen minutes to sit and simply try one of these out for yourself.

 

How to let go as described by Eckhart Tolle in “The Power of Now”

Make sure there are no external distractions….sit on a chair but don’t lean back. Keep the spine erect…. alternatively choose your own favourite position. Make sure the body is relaxed, close your eyes, take a few deep breathes, feel yourself breathing into the lower abdomen as it were. Observe how it expands and contracts slightly with each in and out breath.

Then become aware of the entire inner energy field of the body. Don’t think about it, feel it. By doing this you reclaim consciousness from the mind…. When you can feel the inner body clearly, as single field of energy, let go if possible of any visual image and focus exclusively on the feeling. If you can, also drop any mental image you may have of the physical body.

All that is left then is an all-encompassing sense of presence or beingness, and the inner body is felt to be without a boundary. Then take your attention even more deeply into that feeling. Become one with it. Merge with the energy field so there is no longer a perceived duality of the observer and the observed; of you and your body. The distinction between inner and outer also dissolves now so there is no inner body anymore.

By going deeply into the body, you have transcended the body. Stay in this realm of pure being for as long as feels comfortable. Then become aware again of the physical body, your breathing and physical senses and open your eyes. Look at your surroundings for a few mins in a meditative way that is without labelling them mentally and continue to feel the inner body as you do so.

 

How to let go as described by David Hawkins in “Letting Go”

When we relinquish or let go of a feeling we are freeing ourselves from all of the associated thoughts. The great value of knowing how to surrender is that all feelings can be let go of at any time and any place …. and it can be done continuously and effortlessly.

Letting go involves being aware of a feeling, letting it come up, staying with it and letting it run its course without wanting to make it different or do anything about it. It means simply to let the feeling be there and to focus on letting out the energy behind it.

The first step is to allow yourself to have the feeling without resisting it, venting it, fearing it condemning it or moralising about it. It means to drop judgement and to see that it is just a feeling. The technique is to be with the feeling and surrender all efforts to modify it in any way. Let go of wanting to resist the feeling.

It is resistance that keeps the feeling going. When you give up resisting or trying to modify the feeling it will shift to the next feeling and be accompanied by a lighter sensation. A feeling that is not resisted will disappear as the energy behind it dissipates. As you begin the process you will notice that you have fear and guilt over having feelings. There will be resistance to having feelings in general.

To let feelings come up, it is easier to let go of the reaction to having the feelings in the first place.  A fear of fear itself is a prime example of this. Let go of the fear or the guilt that you have about the feeling first, and then get into the feeling itself. When letting go, ignore all thoughts. Focus on the feeling itself, not on the thoughts. Thoughts are endless and self-reinforcing and they only breed more thoughts.

 

I hope that these give you a breath of fresh air and relief when it comes to dealing with the negative feelings that we all experience at some point. I would love to hear your feedback in the comments below – either about how you found these techniques or else sharing one of your own.

If you would like to be guided through the exact steps for bringing ease and flow to your specific life circumstances,  feel free to apply for a complimentary 30-minute Discovery call with me, I would love to hear from you.

 

5 Steps to Make your Resolutions Successful

5 Steps to Make your Resolutions Successful

Are your New Year’s resolutions setting you up for failure?

Many of us live through the year under stress, pressure and the feeling of being time-poor. So, when the Christmas / New Year holiday rolls around, we vow to make things better in the coming year.

Good idea! But then we scrabble to make a plan, only to go about it in the wrong way.

With the time and space to think, and a spark of inspiration, the next, apparently logical step, is usually to set New Year resolutions and goals. But is this logical? You only need to look at the failure rate to know that it isn’t.

Studies show that around 90% of New Year’s resolutions fail.

That could seem quite depressing if you’ve just got yourself feeling pumped about your New Year. But take heart, this article will show you the key to making sure that your resolutions are amongst the 10% of winners, and that most importantly, you enjoy the trip along the way.

Many articles discuss the various reasons for the high failure rate, but the way I see it, they all boil down to one main problem. Most resolutions are created using the same flawed belief that creates most of our problems.

The fundamental flawed belief is that, that we need to rely on willpower to make things happen, and that there will usually be a struggle involved.

As Alex Loyd refers to willpower in his book “Beyond Willpower”,

“You might be able to push that rock uphill for a while, but usually it rolls back down and crushes you.”

The problem is that willpower is a finite resource, and relying on it creates stress. As we know, stress is the number one cause of nearly all our problems, and it almost always sets us up for failure.

But what counts as success or failure anyway? Maybe as you read this you are remembering a time when you did struggle your way along, using willpower to achieve your New Year’s resolution, and chalked that up as a success. But was it really? Two questions worth asking yourself, to judge if it was a real success are:

  1. During the process, was I enjoying the journey?
  2. Did I find lasting fulfilment from achieving my goal?

I believe that the answers to both those questions need to be a ‘yes’ to truly label your New Year resolution a success. So, here’s what to do:

 

HOW TO CREATE A FAIL-SAFE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION

  1. Go towards, not away:

Make sure that you are aiming towards something, not trying to get away from something. It may just be a matter of wording but this is critical. For example, aiming towards feeling slim and fit at 60kg as opposed to saying you want to lose 10kg or not be fat anymore. A common general example is trying to get away from what you fear. Instead, get clear on its opposite, what you do want to experience, and look towards that.

  1. Work out your ‘why’:

Ask yourself what difference it will make in your life by achieving this goal. In actual practical terms, what will be different? Write those things down.

  1. Find the feeling:

Identify the underlying feeling that you are aiming for. Simply allow yourself to imagine how it feels to have achieved your desired outcome, and to be experiencing those positive changes that you are aiming for. Don’t just think about it, feel it in your body.

  1. Be it to see it:

Commit to taking each step along the way being aware, in the present moment, that you are in the feeling that you just identified. For example, if you are wanting to lose weight so that you can feel light and inspired about life again, you need to be doing it in the energy and feeling of lightness and inspiration, not heaviness, dread and punishment. This will ensure that you are not resorting to willpower alone to force you along the path.

This may require you to change your mind set, change the way you go about things or even change your resolution.

  1. Remain flexible:

This means staying open to other possibilities. Instead of being absolutely fixed on your exact outcome, and how you intend to achieve it, open your mind to considering that there might be other outcomes better suited to you, and other ways of getting there, that you haven’t yet thought of.

The bottom line is, to make sure you’re not setting yourself up for failure, with more stress and pressure this year, you need to open yourself to replacing willpower as your sole driving force, and replace it with other forms of power that you already have available to you.

To learn more about moving away from the struggle of willpower and into living with more ease, you can get my free video training which shows you how to quickly free yourself up and make things easier this year… with or without New Year’s resolutions.

Build your trust, improve your life

Scientific proof of the power of intention

Anything that helps you to build more trust in the power of your own intention, will increase your success with manifesting the life you wish to lead. Therefore, I encourage you to watch this short video by the amazing Lynne McTaggart.

I always love watching and reading Lynne’s work because she is an extremely down to earth investigative journalist, and world renowned author of ‘The Field’, ‘The Intention Experiment’ and ‘The Bond’. Lynne’s work brings all the ‘woo-woo’ back down to a real and usable level!

It’s only short – watch it now! Enjoy.